Musings and a TED Talk: “If I should have a daughter..”

It’s yet another Friday at the end of another summer week and I realized I’m running out of summer. I need to get away, run to somewhere that’s not here so I have space to breathe and think and question. So New York City here I come. In the past few days I’ve gotten my travel plans lined up, with buses and trains and planes to catch for the next few weeks. But all those travel plans have given me the chance to realize what I’ll leave behind if I leave here. I want so badly to start a life, but I’ve been so eager to start it that I haven’t left myself time to be scared. Let the fear commence..

In the spirit of breathing and thinking and questioning (and being scared to live so far from my Mom), I thought I’d share one of my favorite TED talks. I was reminded of it today when someone linked to the video on facebook, and I had to go back and watch it again. The talk is from Sarah Kay, a spoken word poet who packs a punch. I absolutely love the pieces she performs in this, “B” and “Hiroshima.” “B”, the piece that starts “If I should have a daughter,” has always stuck with me, and I sometimes hope to myself that I’ll be able to find words half as wonderful as these to guide a daughter someday.

Remember your mama is a worrier and your papa is a warrior and you are the girl with small hands and big eyes who never stops asking for more. Remember that good things come in threes.. and so do bad things. And always apologize when you’ve done something wrong but don’t you ever apologize for the way your eyes refuse to stop shining. Your voice is small but don’t ever stop singing.

And when they finally hand you heartache, when they slip war and hatred under your door and offer you handouts on street corners of cynicism and defeat, you tell them that they really ought to meet your mother.



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